What Would He Do If You Got Pregnant?
You’re together and totally in love. Then two little blue lines change everything. Does an unplanned pregnancy mean he’ll do a runner?
Uh - oh…. you’re pregnant. And it wasn’t planned. But it’s okay, you’re loved up with the guy of you dreams, so he’ll be totally supportive with whatever decision you make, right? In an ideal world, maybe, but this is cold harsh reality. Look at Billy Crudup and Mary-Louise Parker: After bering together for eight years, he walked out on her when she was seven months pregnant, straight into the arms of the much younger (decidedly not pregnant) Claire FDanes.
Then there’s Kevin Federline. Despite being ecstatic when de-facto wife Shar Jackson fell pregnant with their second child, he started fooling around with Britney two months before Shar gave birth. Who knows how long he’ll stick around after Britney’s delivered? “Kevin is overwhelmed,” his ex has said. “He’s told me that it’s a lot, what with a wedding, a break-up and two babies in one year. I’ve never heard him say to me that he loves her.”
The problem is, there’s no way of knowing how your guy will react when you break the “Honey, I’m pregnant” news and whether or not he’ll stick with you on the roller-coaster ride for the next nine months or is there?
Dropping the baby bomb
Obviously, if the pregnancy is unplanned, you’re going to experience the usual symptoms of “Oh my god how did this happen”- it is: First up is denial, then it’s shock and disbelief, which then morphs into panic. Eventually, you realize you should tell the father so you can discuss what to do. By the time you find a spare minute when the two of you are alone, it may have been a couple of weeks since you first suspected, giving you plenty of time to adjust to the idea.
But don’t expect yous boy to be in the same place you are warns Eric Hudson, a counselor. “It’s important to remember that when you tell your boyfriend about the pregnancy he’ll immediately go through those early stages of shock you experienced. You’ve prepared yourself… but he hasn’t. He has to work through the same, “What does this mean for my future? How will my friends and family react? issues you did.”
His first reaction isn’t necessarily going to be his complete reaction, so give him some breathing space without any pressure.
“Don’t get too anxious about it,” advises Hudson. “People don’t make good decisions when they’re in a crisis because they’re panicking.”
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